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Ski season is back in effect and I am a fair weather blue run skier. Sometimes I’m tempted to be ashamed of that. I think I should be better. And then, I remember learning how to ski in my 30s and going to lessons wearing new, unfamiliar, bulky gear, and being on the bunny hill.…

“I’m not sure that I’ve been a really good teacher this year…” said the client. “Define good:” said the coach. Just like chess has some predictable, standard moves, the exchange above is a staple coaching move. You aren’t good? Who is? You’re not doing a good job? Who is? You weren’t a good partner? Define…

The chilling beginning of “Gone Girl” by Gillian Flynn introduces you to “cool girl” Amy Dunne and her relationship with her boyfriend Nick. Amy is aloof, nonchalant, bemused by Nick and yet kind of over him already. She would NEVER like him more than he liked her. If you haven’t read this book, please start…

COVID and this pandemic year has exacerbated a lot of fears. When you have massive uncertainty on a global scale, fear makes sense… What is going to happen? When will we feel safe? When will we know that everything is going to be OK? The answer is that we don’t know what’s going to happen,…

“I used to think you were a great teacher, but you’re not.” This is a line from one of my worst teaching moments. It was delivered by a spitting mad woman who was a decade older than me. She stood in front of me. She pointed her finger at me. She raised her voice. I…

A very interesting thing about living during a pandemic is that a lot of people are fearing worst case scenarios… and then not wanting to look at the scenario they created. Let’s say you think, “I could die.” Yes. You could. Every day. But your brain takes over… No, I can’t think about that. I…

I love to make money. I really do. I enjoy charging people for my services and content and I especially love to charge people when I give a speech to hundreds of people. Why? When I charge money, I am sure that my message is valuable. I know that what I have to offer is…

My friend recently shared a story about a man whose dog was howling and crying and his neighbor asked him what was going on: “The dog is sitting on a nail.” “Well, why doesn’t he get off the nail?” “Doesn’t hurt enough yet.” Hmmm. Doesn’t hurt enough… yet. So where in your life are you…

Talked to an ex-marine recently who told me that indecision is a decision. It is a decision to do nothing. If you don’t make new decisions, you will keep doing the same thing. Is that good news? Nice! Enjoy. We have a lot of great habits formed at this point in our life. Give yourself…

Zoom flash the hummingbird appears outside my window. Darting in and around the tree. Resting on a twig. Dipping in and out of a flower. Wings vibrating beyond my ability to know. It’s just… wow. When I see hummingbirds outside my window, I pause and put everything aside. I delight: the tiny little feet, the…