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I burst out in tears after a 15 minute weight lifting session recently. My body was trembling all over. I immediately felt ashamed of myself, even though I was alone in my house. Oh my god, get a grip on yourself. It was only 15 minutes. Other people lift way more than you. This crying…

We all judge other people. Our thoughts are judgements. Observe them with scientific interest. Do you sometimes catch yourself judging someone and then getting mad at yourself for judging? If so, you turned the judgment of other into judgement of self. That will be very painful. And, you will miss the lesson. Your judgment is…

Hello, gorgeous reader. How are you doing? Anyone feeling overwhelmed? This is something we can deal with. Here are three ways: Physical Grounding Sometimes, when we are overwhelmed, we get ourselves far off into the future in our minds: all the things coming up, all the things to think of, all the things that we…

Letting out tears in yoga seems to be my thing. Especially now that I practice alone. Especially the hip openers. Especially with the death of so many of my old patterns and ways of being. I used to think there was something wrong with me for all the tears. Get it together. What is wrong…

It’s got to get better this year. It’s got to work out this time. It’s going to change. Nope. No. It won’t. Your life will repeat. It will follow a pattern. It will habitually reproduce your outcomes. There is one way out of reliving the same things over and over. You change. HE, SHE, IT…

Gorgeous! Gotta tell you: Your brain, unsupervised, wants to worry. Your brain, without a planned activity, wants to default negative. Some teachers and researchers call this the “negativity bias,” and argue that most of our 70,000 thoughts a day will skew negative as the “default mode network.” So… This means that if you worry and…

Hello, gorgeous reader! What are you doing out there today? I was reading. And enjoying it. And then I thought: Reading would be a great resolution. Resolve to read! And so I am here telling you about that. Successful people read. Rich people read. Highly effective people “sharpen the saw,” which means they continue to…

You mad, bro? Interesting. Know what? That irritation and frustration is showing up to be loved. Your anger is showing up to be loved. Your sadness is showing up to be loved. Your feelings don’t need to be ignored or numbed away. Imagine a kid running up to you crying, “I feel so embarrassed.” Would…

Do you have a hard time saying “No”? If so, you’re not alone, and one of the most popular requests I get from workshop participants and students is for me to teach them how to say no.  As a communication PhD, of course I have many tools for you to say no, and I’ll give…

Real Housewives is my guilty pleasure. SO MUCH EXAGGERATED DRAMA and judgment. Since I am a PhD in Communication, and a certified life coach, I also hear life-sized judgement unfolding in my classrooms and when I listen to other people’s stories. This is totally human. 100% natural. Eckhart Tolle went so far as to say…